You know what’s little and goes a long way? No, not legos on the floor, but that’s an acceptable answer.
Yep, kindness. And it’s free too!
Recently, I read Whitney Hitt’s blog post about how kindness can be practiced on-line, both within the blogging community and in our relationships with the blogs we read. (I “know” Whitney because we’re both members of an amazing group, The Badass Solopreneur Society, that personifies kindness on-line, but that’s another story.)
I jokingly commented about how I would turn kindness into a blog post and link it back to her. But it genuinely got me thinking about being kind on-line and if there is a characteristic that kind-bloggers share.
At only five posts in, I believe I’ve already found the answer to this question, along with the type of tribe that I strive to belong to: kind, generous, supportive bloggers and entrepreneurs, who believe that…
It comes down to a belief in abundance, rather than scarcity.
Of course, you’ll find these people in the “real world” too.
They know that success and happiness are not a commodity with a finite supply
They know that greatness multiplies, it doesn’t subtract
They believe that sharing what we have, can in turn multiply it
Wait what? That’s crazy-math! Anyway.
I have battled with scarcity for as long as I can remember. Before I even knew how to define it, scarcity ruled the day. The general feeling of dread that creeps in and infects our happiness when we think it can’t possibly continue to be this good. That our lives are hanging on a scale and something must be taken away in order to balance what we’ve been given.
This brings me to my bff Brene Brown. (Well, she hasn’t actually been informed of that yet.)
Chapter One of her book Daring Greatly, introduced me to the term scarcity and helped me better understand my “waiting for the other shoe to drop” mentality, as well as my own fear of success and abundance. It also helped me recognize when scarcity is driving someone else’s actions, which in turn allows me to be more understanding.
Her message that we are each “enough” is a very powerful one. It leads us to not only be kind to others but more importantly, to ourselves.
As it relates to being kind on-line, it reminds us that we don’t need others to fail in order to be successful.
(Here is her very own post about shouting from the rooftops about the things she loves and promoting the work of others.)
So watch out for scarcity creeping into your thoughts and reject it! Find an opportunity to be kind on-line and do it! Let kindness guide you and and let’s see where it can take us.
I’ll bet it takes us to a boat…on a rising tide.